I want to know if I’m really in love with a guy I have been dating for around six months now. On some days, I think we have a great, solid relationship. On others, I feel as if I am settling for someone lesser than myself because I am afraid of not finding a better partner. I know this sounds shallow and I am probably just an indecisive person, but it’s a real concern because it makes it hard for me to commit fully to this relationship. I think he senses this, too, which only makes it hard for him to be more present when we are around. He’s probably never sure of where he stands with me because I can’t engage with him more fully. Is he the one for me? How will I know?
You may never have all the answers you’re looking for when it comes to addressing the concept of compatibility. At the same time, you won’t be able to fully gauge whether a relationship is right for you if you don’t take that proverbial plunge and give it a chance. If you have been together for six months already, it’s a sign that you don’t hate each other. If you have good days and bad days, that is perfectly normal too because no one can go through life by accepting another person as completely without faults. If you want to know where you stand, the only way is to engage more fully with this person and give it a chance. That way, if you don’t feel as if you are happy with this relationship, it won’t be for lack of trying. It will give you the information you need to stop second guessing yourself. If you feel as if you can’t commit, that is a sign too, because it shows that this probably isn’t as important as you think it is. Ask yourself what you want from any relationship and be honest with yourself. Then try seeing how your partner matches these needs.

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